This message came in from one of our readers, please let's advice him...
I'm a 35-year-old man who hails from a Royal Family in Delta State and I'm passionately in love with Funmi, a 24-year-old lady from Osun state. In fact, we got engaged two years ago. After
so many pleas and persuation, my family members finally agreed that I could marry the love of my life. They traveled down to Lagos for the
engagement at Funmi's residence and something strange happened. During
the ceremony, my friends and I were asked
to prostrate according to the customs and tradition of the Yoruba land but my family members refused saying their son is a Prince and such a thing is not
done. After so much plea, I decided to prostrate alone so I lay flat on the floor in front of Funmi's
parents and you won't believe what happened next.
Immediately I got up, all my family members who were in
attendance stood up and they all left the ceremony. Now I'm confused
because my Parents haven't spoken with me since that day and they have also told everyone that they won't attend my wedding or bless
the union. I have no one to talk to and everytime I bring up this conversation with my wife-to-be, she always snaps at me. I feel so alone and I don't know what to do.
Ariyike says:
It's so sad and frustrating when your family members are not in support of your decisions. I already reached out to him to share my thoughts with him. What would you have done if you were in his shoes? Let's discuss.
It is important that parents bless the marriage. Even in yoruba land I seriously doubt that royalty will prostrate( I stand to be corrected) funmi's family should have respected the "crown" and maybe let his friends prostrate on his behalf.. I think the marriage is already starting on shakky grounds which is not a good sign at all. If he wants a solid marriage, he needs a solid foundation and all parties need to be on the same page.. That's my 2 cents.
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